What are things to quit for a better life?

Life is really something right. Everyone trying to rise up, some getting exhausted with it, some searching for the true meaning of it.

It’s really not everyone’s cup of cake to quit something for better life. For example; An chronic drunkard , no matter what he say’s will get drunk eventually and again the blame game begins. But anyway we keep trying and in these way the whole damn universe functions , so there nothing much to argue bout it. So, things to quit for a better life as far as i heard goes like this-

1. Quit expecting a lot of things for other. One of the major problem people have is , they expect too much and eventually feel like the whole universe is against them. There’s no point in it.
2. Make sure you get enough sleep(6–7) hours at least . This seems counter-intuitive but it really impacts your whole day.
3. Stop overcomplicating your life. Complexity creates confusion and hides solutions in a haze of fog. It is very hard to be creative and innovative when you are bogged down with complexity and detail. Complexity will also prevent you from being open to finding the solutions that are often right in front of you.
4. Stop adding BAD stress to your life. Being too busy, working too hard on things you really don’t like doing, striving for perfection, taking on more responsibilities because you think it makes you feel valued and ending up having too many things to do takes away time for you to JUST BE YOU. Bad stress is harmful to your health and I don’t need to quote all the scientific research that supports how harmful bad stress can be. To be blunt, BAD STRESS over a continuous period of time will KILL YOU – so if you are prone to creating BAD STRESS in your life PLEASE STOP. Figure out WHY you are doing this to yourself and change.
5. Stop regretting your actions from your past, what you haven’t achieved and what you have lost. The past is over and what is more important is where you are now and where you want to be in the future. All your past experiences, mistakes and failures in your life have prepared you for living your life in the present and in the future. Acknowledge your past and what you have learnt, then let the past go and move forward to the future
6. Stop saying you have NO TIME. Whether it’s to be with a friend, to visit your elderly aunt, to watch the sunset or sunrise, to have a holiday, to read a book, to sleep peacefully, or to go to a funeral, our time is so precious and you will never know when you run out of time. With no time, you can miss the most precious and beautiful moments in your life. With no time, you will put off all the important things you know you should do however choose not to do because you say you have no time.
7. Stop choosing to be fearful about the future, about making mistakes, about following your dream, about change. Fear is paralyzing and it will stop you from making any changes in your life. Your limiting self beliefs will control your thoughts and actions and will fuel your fear. You must deal with these limiting beliefs and know why it is that you are so FEARFUL. Acknowledge your fear and act anyway and I guarantee you will feel liberated and free!
8. Stop looking to others for your happiness because your happiness can only come from within you. When you look to others to make you happy, it is a sign that you are not being true to yourself. It is a dangerous thing to do because we can convince ourselves that being with the people we love does make us happy, however that is only part of the equation to you being happy. The message is pretty clear “only you can make yourself happy” and its important to figure what it is that you need to do to be fulfilled and happy.
9. Stop comparing your life to others because they will have a better life than you and you will always feel miserable. If you are doing this, then please stop and focus on doing things that build your self confidence and self belief in you.
10. Stop waiting for the right time. Don’t wait for the “right time” for you to take action, to make the change, to leave your job, to follow your dream, to do what ever it is that you need to do to be happy and have a better life. There never is a right time to be courageous, to initiate change and chase your dreams. If you choose to keep waiting for the right time, accept that your life will pass by and you will never attain that life you desire. Choose not to wait and you will have that life you so desire. Very simple
11. Stop running from your problems and taking the path of least resistance. Running away from a problem or choosing the easy option does not give you a sense of achievement or make you feel courageous. Life is not perfect and its full of challenges, hard times and bad times. The challenges and problems we have in our lives have to be dealt with, and sometimes we have to be courageous and make difficult decisions.
12. Stop spending time with the wrong people as this will sap you of your energy, create friction in your life and get you nowhere. This is a tough one to manage because there are times in our lives particularly in our work lives where we do come in contact with people who are not good for us. To stop spending time with the wrong people you may need to be quite strategic in how you manage the interaction with them. The goal here is to minimize the impact they have on your life. However, if you choose to spend time with people who are sucking happiness from you, then you need to remove yourself from these relationships. The relationship you have with these people is toxic and will only bring unhappiness to your life.
13. Stop trying to be someone you are not because you will end up confused about who you are. You will end up doing things that will be in conflict with your value system. For a period of time you will be able to convince yourself that you have done the right things and you will have all the excuses lined up in your head as to why your actions or behavior was justified. After a while the feeling of discontentment and unhappiness will rise to the surface and you will have a choice – either ignore it and continue with the feeling of discontent OR stop being that person that you don’t like being. If you stop being that yucky person your life will get better
14. Stop putting other people’s needs before yours – spend time getting to know you and look after yourself. If you are doing this then you are not taking care of your needs and you are being a martyr – which may not serve you well. Being a martyr to me is about personal sacrifice for the benefit of others and that role is really only for people who have been ordained Saints! Not everybody is a Saint and it doesn’t mean that if you are not a Saint, you are a bad person. Ask yourself “why is it that I sacrifice my needs over those of others?”. The answer may be that, you believe that by putting others needs before yours makes you feel loved?? I read this wonderful book called the FIVE LANGUAGES OF LOVE and it helped me get perspective on what I need to show and feel love.
15. Stop beating yourself up. No matter what it is, stop beating yourself up about not being great, not being perfect, being too fat, not being good enough, not being intelligent enough – just stop beating yourself up.
    “Don’t beat yourself up for not knowing the answers. You don’t always have to know who you are. You don’t have to have the big picture, or know where you’re heading. Sometimes, it’s enough just to know what you’re going to do next.”

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